On Belonging by Kate Leth
"I don't count because I'm in a relationship." "I don't count because I've only ever kissed one girl." "I don't feel like I count in the queer community because I have a boyfriend." "I want to go to pride but people always scoff at me and my partner." "I'm not gay enough." "I'm not straight enough."
It's not something any of us bring up at the dinner table unprovoked, but I have heard it over and over again.