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As we look at the world with more relaxation and clarity, we see more of the beauty and safety available to us.
Look into the Present

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Eclipse eye care
If you are in the US, enjoy the solar eclipse on August 21! Remember to protect your eyes by not looking directly at the sun during an eclipse. Here is eclipse eye care advice from NASA.

Breaking toxic patterns
I love this insight! In her post Finding love that doesn’t hurt: Keeping yourself safe in the aftermath of abuse, Artemisia Solstice says, "[H]ere’s the deal: It isn’t time alone that helps survivors break patterns that get them into toxic relationship after toxic relationship – it is consistent practice of self-care, resulting in the development of self-love and respect, that breaks these patterns." Learn more about Artemisia at artemisiasolstice.com.

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We thrive on positive feedback, with the occasional bit of corrective negative feedback thrown in.
Seek Nourishing Feedback

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Happy Summer
Wishing everyone (in the northern hemisphere) a peaceful summer. If you are in the US, I hope you have a pleasant Fourth of July with sufficient shielding from the sound of explosions. Fortunately my cat Basil is mellow about loud sounds.

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Even if we missed out on learning how to be calm as babies, it is not too late for our nervous systems to learn about rest and regulation as adults.
Find Calm: Practice Rest and Regulation

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Video on co-regulation
Bonnie Badenoch, psychotherapist and professor of interpersonal neurobiology, warmly explains co-regulation and polyvagal theory in her video How to Feel Safe in Your Relationship. Thanks to Donna Norfolk for the link.

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Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory explains our nervous system and helps us make sense of our behavior.
Find Calm: A Polyvagal Primer

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Updated FAQ
I updated my Frequently Asked Questions page to include a note on tipping (none wanted), after a question from a client. If you have a question that is not answered there, let me know and I'll add it.

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Paying attention to our limits helps us compassionately care for ourselves.
Cherish Your Limits

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Waiting list
My schedule has been full and I have continued to receive calls from new clients, so I started a waiting list. I'm both delighted to be in demand and chagrined to turn down people reaching out for help. Based on past ebbs and flows, I expect to have more room in a month or two.

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We are entitled to complete autonomy over the insides and surfaces of our bodies.
Healthy Entitlement: Discern Your Domain

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Wellspring of Compassion ebook update complete
You can now order the updated Wellspring of Compassion ebook, with current weblinks and better formatting, for $4.99 directly from me (epub, Kindle, and pdf), or Amazon (Kindle only) or Apple iBooks (epub only). If you already own the Kindle version, you can update it via the Amazon "Manage Content and Devices" page.

French translation
My article The Betrayal of Not Being Heard has been translated into French by Armelle Pernet for Association Internationale des Victimes de l'Inceste. If you understand French, take a look! Ne pas être entendu, un sentiment de trahison.

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Apparently I haven't been posting these! Perhaps I've been a bit distracted by current events. Here, have several in a row.

Emotions are meant to move. Giving them more space allows them to flow and change, peak and ebb.
Counter the Feelings Police

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Presence After Trauma available as ebook!
You can now order Presence After Trauma as an ebook for $7.99 directly from me (epub, Kindle, and pdf), or Amazon (Kindle only) or Apple iBooks (epub only). The ebook includes all the illustrations.

Wellspring of Compassion ebook update
The next task is to update the Wellspring of Compassion ebook with what I learned making the new one. If you already own Wellspring of Compassion as an ebook and you want an updated copy, email me and I'll send you a new one when it's ready. I'll update broken web links and remove repeated images, so it will be a somewhat smaller file.

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As you move through difficult, triggering events in the present, bring along all the healing tools you have learned over time.
Withstand Ongoing Trauma

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Ebooks
I'm working on formatting the ebook version of Presence After Trauma. It should be available by the end of the year. The print version is available from Powell's, Amazon, and directly from me.

Signal app
I installed the free Signal app on my phone, which easily encrypts text messages and phone calls for privacy. You can use it to contact me at my same number. whispersystems.org/blog/signal/ Regular texts and phone calls still work, of course.

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When the nervous system is chronically irritated, it transmits sensations more strongly and is more likely to interpret strong sensations as pain.
Protect Your Irritated Nervous System

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Presence After Trauma cover

News


"Presence After Trauma", cover unveiled
"Presence After Trauma: Reconcile with Your Self and the World" is very close to complete. After a final editing pass, I'll upload it to LightningSource and order a proof. When everything looks right, I'll make it available for sale, sometime this month. Check the book's web page for updates. TraumaHealed.com/presence-after-trauma/

You can see my updated photo here: TraumaHealed.com

The Art and Labor of Maintenance article
I wrote The Art and Labor of Maintenance for The Recompiler, a feminist technology magazine. If you're curious about my other career as a software engineer, or you wonder how people keep those old systems running, check it out.

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Try a new narrative: "My perceptions and responses make sense. I am intrinsically good. I am doing my best with the resources and knowledge I have."
Prefer Narratives with Hope

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"Presence After Trauma" in progress
Formal copy-editing for "Presence After Trauma: Reconcile with Yourself and the World" is in progress - thanks, Carrie! I already incorporated suggestions made by two early readers - thanks, David and Robyn! Author photo session is scheduled for this Monday, and I put together a draft of a cover. It's happening!

Bodywork class: Leg and Foot Series
Amy Bennett, LMT, BCSICM is offering a class in the functional anatomy of the leg and foot. I highly recommend Amy as a skilled and knowledgeable bodyworker and teacher. I'm already signed up!

November 5-6, 2016
14 CE hours, 9am-5pm $280.00
510 NE Dekum St, Portland, OR 97211
Class space is limited to 8 students.
Contact Amy to sign up. amy@elementalbodywork.net
www.elementalbodywork.net

Two classes: Yoga, and Self-Compassion
Tracy Thorne, L.Ac. passed along information about two new classes in Portland: Trauma-Aware Yoga, and Mindful Self-Compassion. Contact me if you would like me to forward you a flyer for either or both.

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Imagine a kind friend saying, "I believe you. It's not you. You're doing all the right things."
Trust Yourself Despite Everyday Gaslighting

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"Presence After Trauma" draft complete
I set a goal of finishing a draft of "Presence After Trauma" by the end of July, and I did it! I added another section and rearranged the articles, which meant I needed one more. This month's article will be in the book. Now it's off to the copy-editor, and I get to work on the cover and adding the interior illustrations.

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I stand with fellow victims and survivors and tell you that you do not need fixing.
When I Started

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"Presence After Trauma" in progress
The InDesign book file for "Presence After Trauma" now has all the articles formatted and in order, although I'm still refining that. I'm excited about the chapter heading illustrations by Laurel Purdy. Now to write an overall introduction, and introductions for each chapter. I'm hoping to have a completed draft by the end of July.

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Shame heals in many small steps.
The Puzzle Box of Shame

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Trauma heals at the borders between comfortable and uncomfortable.
Heal Around the Edges

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We all deserve to have our distress heard and heeded.
The Betrayal of Not Being Heard

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A large majority of people have had Adverse Childhood Experiences, which directly affect our health.
Not Alone with Your ACEs

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New website!
My Wordpress website is live! TraumaHealed.com In the sidebar, you can see the new categories that will be part of the next book, "Presence After Trauma". You can see all the articles in a single category by clicking on a category name.

One person mentioned that they miss the old Articles table of contents. (Thank you for the feedback!) I added an Articles by Date summary page, available under the Articles menu and on the sidebar. I'll work on adding an Articles by Category summary page as well. Programming for Wordpress is a whole new adventure.

Check it out, and let me know what you think, especially if you have trouble with something.

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We all deserve protection for our needy, vulnerable places as well as recognition of our strengths.
Worthy of Protection

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"Ancillary Mercy" by Ann Leckie
"Northwest Passage" by Stan Rogers as seen by Matt James
"In the Spirit of We'Moon" narrated by Musawa

Website update
The new version of my website, built on Wordpress, is mostly ready. I'm working on the details, like adding the header image. If you want to see it early and let me know what you think, drop me a note! I suspect the changeover will result in the site being down for a few hours. I'm hoping to do that sometime this month.

Cycle-breaking superheroes
For all of you who lovingly protect your children (or anyone else) despite not receiving protection yourselves, here is A Love Letter to the Cycle Breakers by Annie Reneau. You are superheroes!

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Kabbalah helps us repair internal and external connections.
Weave Your Body Whole

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"Rising Strong" by Brene Brown

Word of the Year
Last year's word was "music." I took a year of piano lessons and went to a week-long singing camp in the summer. This year's word is "ease". I want to treat myself with kindness as I choose what to take on. What is your word of the year for 2016?

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Emotional labor is the detail work of caring, of noticing, of paying attention.
The Sacred Work of Showing Up
(Thanks to [personal profile] tim for consultation on gendered language.)

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"The Emotionally Absent Mother" by Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC
"The Emotion Code" by Dr. Bradley Nelson
"Childhood Disrupted" by Donna Jackson Nakazawa

Wanted: website feedback
I'm working on redesigning my website. I would love to hear your feedback about your least favorite (and most favorite) experiences with it. Please send me email (or comment here) on what you would like to see fixed, and what you want to make sure doesn't go away. Thanks!

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When we sit patiently with uncertainty, we make room for a new pattern to emerge.
Patience With Long Endings

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"Ancillary Justice" by Ann Leckie
"Ancillary Sword" by Ann Leckie
"Trauma Stewardship" by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky with Connie Burk

Holidays are coming around again
Holidays can be hard when we don't see our family, or when family is dangerous and triggering. As my own tradition, I send out this article link every year around this time. Choose Your Traditions

Appointment hours
I'm happy to report that the Wednesday appointments are filling up. I'm glad to provide more options to fit with people's schedules.

  • Wednesdays 9am-5pm
  • Thursdays 1pm-8pm
  • Fridays 9am-5pm
  • One Saturday per month, usually the second Saturday.

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