I love that description of access intimacy, thanks for the link! And I'm glad you have that.

Makes sense that it's tender subject. Do you have a sense of the difference for you? For me, there's a big difference between hearing some version of, "I'd love to, but I can't (for whatever reason)" or "I got a better offer." And whether the person seems to care about how it feels receive their cancellation, or if I'm being erased.