I laughed about "piss on their foot." Thanks, I needed that. Also thanks for applause. It's interesting to be angry about boundary violations without being triggered - adult-me handles things better than child-me. Or anyway differently and with less stress.

It's an interesting question - how to indicate to someone that they have screwed up royally without "behaving badly" in some way. I'm not sure it's possible. I try to leave before I start yelling, at least.

This one was an ophthalmologist. (Dang, it's even harder to type than to say.) Thanks for the optometrist tip, that sounds useful.

[heh for icon, and 4y.o. self. I was seven when I got glasses, and they were big round plastic ones.]