Thanks for deconstructing that
Jun. 26th, 2011 11:06 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
soniaI recently had two not-so-delightful, sadly typical disability experiences.
On someone's blog, I read, "... [various serious troubles] but if I find out I have to go gluten-free, I'll kill myself." Um. I went back later and someone had addressed the topic far more kindly than I would have, by saying, "Gluten-free is not so hard, really."
In conversation with an acquaintance, she said, "... [various serious troubles] but I feel so grateful that at least I don't have your limitations of sensitivities to fragrances." I said, "I feel grateful about how good I feel when I've avoided the things I'm sensitive to."
I'm also grateful to the folks who have already written about and deconstructed similar experiences, so I can notice and name them rather than feeling wrong and bad without knowing what hit me.
On someone's blog, I read, "... [various serious troubles] but if I find out I have to go gluten-free, I'll kill myself." Um. I went back later and someone had addressed the topic far more kindly than I would have, by saying, "Gluten-free is not so hard, really."
In conversation with an acquaintance, she said, "... [various serious troubles] but I feel so grateful that at least I don't have your limitations of sensitivities to fragrances." I said, "I feel grateful about how good I feel when I've avoided the things I'm sensitive to."
I'm also grateful to the folks who have already written about and deconstructed similar experiences, so I can notice and name them rather than feeling wrong and bad without knowing what hit me.
