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soniaA quote via the Emotional Labor summary of these words of wisdom: "A great explanation of why 'be respectful' especially across unstated power dynamics fails."
That resonates like a big clanging bell.
Sometimes people use 'respect' to mean 'treating someone like a person' and sometimes they use 'respect' to mean 'treating someone like an authority'
and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say 'if you won't respect me I won't respect you' and they mean 'if you won't treat me like an authority I won't treat you like a person'
and they think they're being fair but they aren't, and it's not okay.
That resonates like a big clanging bell.
