Dense communication

[sonia]

A friend told me that my communication is unusually dense, by which she appeared to mean that I actually expect what I say to be listened to, I'm not just babbling to hear the sound of my voice. Which is true. The odd thing is that she said she doesn't have that "problem" with other people she talks with.

Now I'm curious. What are your expectations around being heard when you're talking one-on-one with someone? What are your expectations when listening to someone speak?

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[dorothean]

My THERAPIST told me a few sessions ago that it can be difficult to talk with me when I assume that every word she says is carefully chosen and has strategic significance.

Me: But that's the only way I know how to listen in a serious conversation!

Therapist: You seem distressed. Are conversations often uncomfortable for you?

Me: No ... because everyone I trust enough to have this sort of serious conversation with talks as carefully as I do.

I'm still slightly freaking out about this.

[sonia]

... I got nuthin. I suppose it could be useful to explore that dynamic? (But THERAPISTS. Are supposed to be choosing their words carefully! Right?!?)

[dorothean]

That's what I thought! I hope to figure this out soon...