Links: A couple of takes on being ace

[sonia]

Thoughts I had as a "straight cis woman" who was really bi, ace, and genderfluid by sqbr

A thought-provoking list of all the ideas that kept one person from realizing they were not straight and cis. A quick sample:

• I feel weird about being "straight"/"cis" but that's just feeling defensive about my privilege.
  
• Transphobia/homophobia make me really miserable...I must just be a really empathetic ally!
  
• All girls think other girls are pretty. The odd attraction to other girls is normal. (There's pretty and then there's pretty)

Asexuality 101 by Galia Godel. A quick Q&A about asexuality, with nuance.

See also Aromantic 101 and Agender 101.

Cerebral Sexuality blog via kaberett

Comments

[jesse_the_k]

I have acquired asexuality thanks to med side effects. I don't know if I "count," but it's certainly useful to read this stuff.

[sonia]

Glad it's useful. I'm sorry to hear about the med side effect!

As far as whether you "count", I think you get to choose whether it's a change in identity or (just) behavior.

[jesse_the_k]

Mmmmm. Indeed.