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Question: When someone leaves
Oct. 26th, 2022 06:11 pmSomewhere along the way, I learned that one expresses gratitude at a leave-taking. When someone leaves a position, it’s time to leave behind as much of the conflict as possible and graciously thank each other for all the good parts.
With caveats, of course, for abuse/harm. But even then, it’s usually mixed and there’s usually something to be politely grateful for as one backs out of danger smiling and nodding.
How about you? Is this familiar? Would you expect it from yourself or others most of the time? Not at all?
And, where would I have learned that? It feels like such an implicit rule of maturity to me that I’m shocked that others don’t follow it. (Maybe they’re not mature…)
ETA: One place it got reinforced, at least, is when I closed my practice. People were understandably upset, but many clients very kindly said how much they appreciated my work and what a difference it had made for them. It felt good to receive that, and something in me said, "Oh, that's how you do it."
I've also learned over the years to preserve relationships on the way out. You never know when you'll run into someone again, or what new information will come to light, and it's best to leave things as positively as possible.
With caveats, of course, for abuse/harm. But even then, it’s usually mixed and there’s usually something to be politely grateful for as one backs out of danger smiling and nodding.
How about you? Is this familiar? Would you expect it from yourself or others most of the time? Not at all?
And, where would I have learned that? It feels like such an implicit rule of maturity to me that I’m shocked that others don’t follow it. (Maybe they’re not mature…)
ETA: One place it got reinforced, at least, is when I closed my practice. People were understandably upset, but many clients very kindly said how much they appreciated my work and what a difference it had made for them. It felt good to receive that, and something in me said, "Oh, that's how you do it."
I've also learned over the years to preserve relationships on the way out. You never know when you'll run into someone again, or what new information will come to light, and it's best to leave things as positively as possible.
