Links: Naming the hard things

[sonia]

Demystifying Burnout in Tech by parallaxbat. I like how leads/managers are supposed to identify and deal with (fix/fire) subtly toxic individuals. It has not been my experience that that happens, but I always want it to. Also leads/managers are supposed to listen to and support empathic "canaries." *raises hand*. It usually works the other way, toxic people get supported and canaries get booted out.

I am a compost heap, quote from Ann Patchett.

I am a compost heap, and everything I interact with, every experience I’ve had, gets shoveled onto the heap where it eventually mulches down, is digested and excreted by worms, and rots. It’s from that rich, dark humus, the combination of what you encountered, what you know and what you’ve forgotten, that ideas start to grow.

Blue Marriage and The Terror of Divorce by Anne Helen Peterson, via liv.

Bourgeois (white) women have been taught that everything, whether the pay gap or enduring domestic labor discrepancies, can be fixed through hard work: hard communication work, hard organizational work, hard therapy work. If they just put in the hours — in their relationships, on top of the hours put into their jobs and their parenting and their body maintenance — everything would work out.

Chronic pain is surprisingly treatable — when patients focus on the brain by Nathaniel Frank via conuly.

As people come to view their pain as uncomfortable but nonthreatening, their brains rewire the neural pathways that were generating the pain signals, and the pain subsides.

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Comments

[jesse_the_k]

The chronic pain is treatable article is intriguing. I know that I live inside the chalk safety lines I've drawn. I'm getting better at perceiving pain as a feeling, not a threat. The article linked to a program/app called Curable, which I'm thinking about trying out. Mmmmm, I wish there was some substantive info there before one plops down money, but ... will report back!

[sonia]

Looking forward to hearing what you think! I tried their demo briefly, but got annoyed that it demanded my email address as part of the demo, and did not feel encouraged to explore further. I have the "Explain Pain" book that the same folks published years ago, and I've tried their Recognise App. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/recognise/id1081707515

Great to have you commenting again! Welcome back!

[jesse_the_k]

Thanks for that -- also intriguing.

It's helpful to find resources that frame pain as a coping mechanism for an overloaded brain.

On the other hand, a distinction between "you" and "your brain" mystifies me.

Aww, nice to be noted.

[sonia]

Sometimes distinctions are useful, sometimes not... I also notice when people make distinctions between "you" and "your body."