Link: You're Always Coming Out

[sonia]

I love this post by thefourthvine: You're Always Coming Out.

As a single not-particularly-butch woman, I have to work pretty hard to come out as a lesbian, and the conversation always seems to sputter a bit, even with other queer folks. "Oh, I, uh, didn't know that." (Uh-huh, that's why I'm telling you, because last I checked, it's not branded on my forehead. Sigh)

Comments

[liv]

That is a really brilliant post, thanks so much for linking to it. And does it ever resonate; I'm yet another bi woman in a visible opposite-sex relationship.

[sonia]

Glad you liked it. The comments are good too, which is not something I get to say much.

Conventional wisdom has it that there are a lot more straight and/or bi people out there than gay and/or bi people (no idea with the bi percentage is!), so it seems likely that bi people would end up in opposite-sex relationships a high proportion of the time. (Ballpark 9/10 relationships if we guesstimate with the 10%-of-people-are-gay figure, right?)

That's leaving aside the social pressures and assumptions that make it easier to start and continue opposite-sex relationships.

(Not lecturing at you, just thinking.)