Fragrance sensitivity is annoying. I mean, people are annoying.

[sonia]

Got chased out of choir by fragrances. People mean well, but they leave conditioner in their hair or put on just a little fragrance in the morning and then they follow me when I move away from them. We're all standing and moving around and for some reason people sense when I'm moving away from them specifically. Fascinating, but not conducive to having a good time singing.

A couple of weeks ago, I finally asked one woman to please move away from me, and she stayed close to me and said she didn't understand and demanded an explanation and didn't even really respect the universal "talk to the hand" sign and finally went off crying. OMG. Choir director emailed both of us and this woman went on about feeling attacked, and I did my best, "This is what I hear you saying, is that right? I hope you understand that my experience was different." No response, and haven't seen her at choir since.

Last week was better, but this week was worse again. I think I'm done.

Comments

[jesse_the_k]

Chez whiz. Why do people do that? I'm so sorry.

"You are harming me?"
"How about now? When I'm close? Still a problem?"

Why?

[sonia]

Because their need to understand is more important than anything I might be communicating, obviously!

Anyway, thanks for your sympathy.

[suncat]

What a crummy, unpleasant thing to have to deal with. I'm so sorry this happening to you.

Last I checked, avoiding someone is not the same as attacking them. If someone was obviously avoiding me I sure would be puzzled, and might ask for clarification, but feel attacked? Give me a break!

[sonia]

Yeah, she needed to step out of her own story for perspective, and that just didn't happen.