Link: 10 things I wish I'd known about gaslighting

[sonia]

10 Things I wish I'd Known About Gaslighting by Shea Emma Fett

Someone once told me they appreciated my gaslighting article because everything else they found online seemed to all be echoing each other. This article, this is new. And spot on.

7. You know what your truth is. You always have. You always will.

Your gaslighter does not see you. You are a shadow standing to the side, trying not to attract attention, while he showers his image of you with love and attention. And no matter how much your mind is in knots, you know this to be true. You know the space you occupy, even if you hate yourself for it. If you look back, if you look inside, you will see that you always knew that something was wrong. It may feel like you lost your core. But it was always there. The alarm system always worked, you just learned to stop listening to it. You have not lost as much as you think.

via kaberett

Comments

[kaberett]

Yeah. And... yeah.

Reminding myself that I can learn to swim is useful, sometimes.

[sonia]

I keep thinking I can learn to swim, in this sense, and I keep being wrong. Staying away is what works for me. (Not at all arguing with what works for you.)