Links: intense edition

This should be divided into four or five posts, but I need to clear my tabs before I send my computer to have its battery replaced.

First, The Nap Ministry website by Tricia Hersey. Also thenapministry. "We believe rest is a form of resistance and name sleep deprivation as a racial and social justice issue."

Let’s Talk About Protecting Our Families by Gabrielle Blair.

Man: Hey God, I just want you to know I am committed to protecting my family at all costs.

God: Gosh, that’s great to hear. One of the main things I need you to do to protect your family is laundry. Tons of laundry.

Wolf packs don’t actually have alpha males and alpha females, the idea is based on a misunderstanding by Elise Kjørstad. "Most wolf packs simply consist of two parents and their puppies. The group may also include one- to three-year-old offspring that have not yet headed out on their own."

( Content notes: Links about surviving abuse, climate change, Covid )

Better health insurance!

If you got unemployment at any point in 2021, you can get platinum-level coverage for around $1/month through the Affordable Care Act. Mine is $3/month and I haven't had real coverage like this ($100 deductible! $5 to see my doctor!) since I can remember, or maybe ever. I thought it was spam when I got an email about it, but I went through healthcare.gov and it does appear to be real. Deadline is end of July to change coverage. You have to go through your whole application to find the one added checkbox about unemployment. Then choose a silver plan. This counts as a "Special Enrollment Period."

Best reference I could find, search in here for "unemployment": How the American Rescue Plan Act Affects Subsidies for Marketplace Shoppers and People Who Are Uninsured by Matthew Rae, Cynthia Cox, Gary Claxton, Daniel McDermott, and Anthony Damico.

Good parenting

Twitter thread by Tori Williams Douglass, ToriGlass.

hi your kids are supposed to lose their emotional regulation on *you*

you are their person, it’s literally your job to be a safe place for them to let their nervous system air out.

YOU aren’t emotionally regulated 100% of the time. stop demanding regulation of brand new people.

I’m not trying to be a jerk about this, new humans literally do not have the neural pathways necessary for self-regulation. that’s what adults are there for. humans evolved to *co-regulate*

(she says as someone who was “punished” [hit] for having emotions as a child)

it’s so cool to raise kids who do not spiral into sheer terror and some hysterical abandonment narrative if their mom is five minutes late because they have always had their emotional needs attended to.

if only i could inform my own nervous system of this fact.

( more context )

Portland street art

Lots of great murals and street art in close-in NE Portland. If you're local, you could put together your own walking or biking tour.

Humboldt neighborhood: article (with photos!) and map

Eliot neighborhood: article and map