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soniaAll marginalised people are practiced at biting our tongues by Sparky at Womanist Musings.
To be clear, the quoted "you" is not directed at anyone reading here. I'm mostly thinking of all the times I tiredly don't say anything about fragrances, and feel like I'm letting myself down in the process.
From the other side, this ties into my emotional conviction that "silence = contempt" and that I'm isolated because I'm just too socially inept to tolerate. I try to tell myself that most people are just living their lives and their responses or lack thereof have nothing to do with me, but I do wonder.
I recently finished reading "Crucial Conversations" and loved what it had to say about creating safety in conversations. It feels like a huge unexpected reprieve when someone does that for me, and I try to do it for others.
via Feministe
Consider that our silence isn’t a sign that you haven’t done anything wrong but that you have put us in a painful, difficult position where we do not feel we can speak.
To be clear, the quoted "you" is not directed at anyone reading here. I'm mostly thinking of all the times I tiredly don't say anything about fragrances, and feel like I'm letting myself down in the process.
From the other side, this ties into my emotional conviction that "silence = contempt" and that I'm isolated because I'm just too socially inept to tolerate. I try to tell myself that most people are just living their lives and their responses or lack thereof have nothing to do with me, but I do wonder.
I recently finished reading "Crucial Conversations" and loved what it had to say about creating safety in conversations. It feels like a huge unexpected reprieve when someone does that for me, and I try to do it for others.
via Feministe
