grounding and support

[sonia]

I recently had a couple of people suggest grounding exercises in the context of offering support. I experienced that as the opposite of support. "Please ground yourself so I don't have to be around your messy emotions."

Thinking it over, I could see how getting grounded, connecting with this big planet we walk around on, could be a supportive experience. I could see how they were trying to offer tools that are generally useful.

I still think there's something one human can offer another which involves *being supportive*, listening, offering validation, allowing emotions to be big and messy, rather than suggesting tools for self-support.

What is your experience around grounding and support and how they relate to each other?

Comments

[untonuggan]

Religious bullying does indeed suck. And thanks for listening to me share. It's...not often that I share that particular set of experiences, for a variety of reasonz.

Just a curiosity thing: I don't know about your region in particular, and perhaps this is something you have already tried to address, and another person mentioning the same thing will be the opposite of helpful, but are there other rescue groups besides the Humane Society who are less WHAT A CAT IN A BIKE ZOMG? Or who perhaps might, you know, drop the cat off for you or something? Because seems SO FRIGGING RIDICULOUS. And yet knowing the human species, I can totally see us being that ridiculous.

My vet told us a story about her being denied an adoption application because she didn't have a fenced yard. When she said, yes, but I take my dogs on 5 mile walks and it is impossible to fence that yard and I have had many dogs before and oh does it matter even a tiny bit that I am actually a vet? They were like NO DOG FOR YOU. So I think some of it is the classic "people feeling underappreciated in volunteer roles going on power trips."

Re: Having an animal around: I am obviously not you, etc., and I also have other people in my house who can help pick up the slack or carry around GIANT BAGS of kitty litter. However, I just...I hadn't realized since my dog died in December exactly how much I missed having an animal who gave a shit about me, because I shit you not it helps keep me sane and out of the hospital. It helps make me take my meds and make doctor's appointments. Again, YMMV, but yes. (Then, of course, there is also the joy of the cat wanting to play precisely when I have fallen asleep, but we are working out a sleep schedule that is mutually agreeable.)

[jesse_the_k]

Having an animal around can be life-saving, and is often life-affirming and just damn nice.

Would it be possible to take a taxi home that day? I agree with liz that you could be dealing with shelter folks on a power trip.

[sonia]

Yes, it's possible, and listening to you and untonuggan and myself, I'm considering asking a friend with a car to go with me.

It's just - I have perfectly good transportation already! And asking for help is hard.